Postpartum depression

9+ months of pregnancy, so many symptoms(nausea, dizziness, fatigue, heartburn, constipation, swollen feet etc), lots of medicines,  labour pain😶 and delivery. Finally, a woman thinks now I will be fine.

Then comes back pain, sleepless nights, tiredness, household and the responsibility of a baby.

Despite all this when a baby is in her hands she does all the job at the cost of hurting her.

Note:

The responsibility of a baby is of a couple and not just a mother. 

If your wife or sister is going through depression please support her. Understand why it is happening. Talk to an expert about helping them come out of depression.

According to my thoughts, medicine is not always the way. Moral support is the best medicine for anybody who is depressed. 

Reason for depression during pregnancy:

• Couples nowadays do not plan for pregnancy and this is one of the reasons leading to Depression.
• Support each other rather than blame.
• Take care of your wife and unborn baby. Help her in households. 
• Take her for short walks.
• Talk with her about the feeling she is going through during the new phase of life. The same should be done by the wife as well.
• Understand each other's responsibilities.

My story:

When my doctor told me during a monthly checkup that in the sonography report there was a hole(dot size, very very tiny) in the baby's heart. He told me nothing to worry about it and it will be fine but I was stressed. 

I had lost my baby in my first pregnancy and I could not bear it. Doctors knew about my last pregnancy and did not want to scare but he said telling you is very important as after a child's birth we need to check the baby with a heart specialist(for no complications further).

I was alone, so I called up my elder sister. She immediately talked to her doctor friend and explained everything. She said I am here nothing will happen. 

You need to be strong to take care of your baby. 

Her words encouraged me and I got relief. Thank you is a very small word for what she did for me. Moral support is very important for every person. 

This could be my reason for depression during pregnancy but I thought of talking to her and which helped me a lot.

Note:

No matter what always talk to someone. Be confident. Sharing your feeling does not at all means you are weak. 

Sharing that you are stressed or depressed means you are strong enough to face it.

Reason for postpartum Depression:

• After childbirth, a drop in hormones (estrogen and progesterone) in your body may lead to postpartum depression. 
• When you're sleep-deprived, you may have trouble handling even minor problems. You may be anxious about your ability to care for a newborn. Some even feel they are not good moms.
• You may feel less attractive(due to gaining weight), struggle with your sense of identity or feel that you've lost control over your life.

My story:

I too had stress due to sleepless nights, less breast milk, back pain, stitches and many other reasons. I also thought that I am not a good mom. I used to be angry about small silly things but then I talked to my elder sister and she told me about postpartum depression. She told me she too had this kind of feeling. 

My sister is the one with whom I can ask anything and she has all the answers🥰. Blessed to have her. Always share your feelings don't keep them to yourself. 

Note:

Always talk to someone you think will help you out. Who do you think will answer your questions? 

How to handle it?

• Talk to your husband or close ones.
• Don't keep your feelings to yourself this can lead to a serious problem. 
• Ignore or stay away from people who stress or hurt you.
• Do meditation and yoga. It is the best way to handle stress.

When to call a doctor?

• Not able to take care of your baby.
• Not able to complete household or office work.
• Thoughts about harming you or your baby?
• Cannot control your emotions.

Help your closed one:

Depression is not a serious problem and every woman faces it during pregnancy or after pregnancy. It is common to stress, but don't let it overrule you. 

If anyone in your family or friend has recently given childbirth then talk to them. Share with them about this topic. Make them aware it is not serious but can happen if you face it alone. 

Assure them that you are there if needed any help.

You never know who is going through which situation, always be good to others. If you can't console please don't hurt. 

Take care of yourself.

Don't worry you are the best parents. Mistakes might happen but with the experience, you will be the best🥰.

Stay positive, stay healthy.

If you feel it's not happening even after trying on your own please seek a doctor's help. They will help you out.

Have you faced any such problems? How did you overcome it? Please do share your views.
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